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Why Women Love Alpha Males

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I was hanging out at a random party a few weeks ago when the topic of an “Alpha Man” came up….Now of course it was a mixed crowd, and I would have had a guy elaborate on the subject. However drinks were on deck and before I knew it there was an all out battle about a globe…..or something to that effect. lol

Any who, the conversation started when the complex topic of relationships came up. Women basically want a strong male counterpart who completes them. (it’s just that simple) With that being said, I think it’s safe to say that all women have their own idea of what constitutes a strong male. No matter your race, or species, all Alpha males exhibit the same traits. Here are just a few reasons why we love them….

Alpha males exemplify success: When a woman chooses this “alpha” she is choosing a man who can possibly provide financial security. This is particularly appealing in today’s society. This does not mean that she is a “gold digger”, it means that she realizes and identifies with success in her own right. Therefore she’ll have no problem being a strong supporter of her alpha because she will trust in his ability to “bring home the bacon”. Even the most independent woman of today can appreciate this alpha.

Alpha males are confident: A woman will choose this “alpha” because she is attracted to his subtle ability to affect people in different situations. This “alpha” displays an inner “knowing” of himself that is both sexy and alluring. Most woman will choose this “alpha” but this alpha will only choose the woman who is confident within her self.

Alpha males are decisive: Life is all about decisions right? So in this case opposites might attract. An indecisive woman will gravitate towards this alpha because she lacks the ability or motivation to make certain decisions on her own. Or perhaps she prefers not to take on sole responsibility for certain situations. In any case, the polarity of this alpha-beta relationship works perfectly. He gets to take charge, and she’s happy to let him.

Trust me, women can spot the alpha of the pack from a mile away! As a matter of fact, YOU know the alpha as well. He’s the friend who makes all the decisions and is never outwardly worried about anything.

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Dating 101: 5 Tips For Dating A Single Parent

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Single parents…to date or not to date?

So you meet that perfect stranger one night. Smart, funny, gorgeous, quirky, who secretly enjoys watching teen titans (insert cartoon) as much as you do. From the moment you guys hit it off the

conversation is flowing and you find yourself thinking where have you been ALL my life? As you settle into the thought of absolute bliss you eventually learn that your potential life partner already has a special someone in their lives…. a child.

Now if you are a parent this may be an absolute victory for you as your mind replays the Brady Bunch theme. Yet if you are like so many other singles who put career and personal success before starting a family you may find yourself in a scary position. The question hits you like a ton of bricks.. can I date someone with children?

Let me start off by saying children are a joy. For most parents out there the most important thing in their lives are their children. With that being said if you are contemplating dating someone who has children here are a few simple tips on how to make your relationship a success.

1.)Planning your outings and date nights with your partner is not only appreciated it may actually be necessary. While spontaneity is nice, the last thing you want to do is make the other person feel bad when they can’t get a sitter for your random taco Tuesday invite.

2.) Channel your inner 10 year old. Kids come with energy and a carefree spirit. Use that energy and your childhood experiences to relate to the child. Don’t be afraid to color a few pages in their coloring book or play a few rounds of rock paper scissors.

3.) Don’t get in the way when it comes to discipline. While you may have some valid opinions when it comes to how your parents did things, there is no real right or wrong when it comes to parenting. Unless expressly asked for your input, stay out of it.

4.) Plan a monthly kid outing. Nothing shows a single parent that you’re serious about a relationship then making plans with their kid. A simple kid friendly movie, or day at the zoo is just enough to show you are in it for the long haul. You’re relationship with the child is as important as that with the parent.

5.) Communication is key. Never be afraid to voice any uncomfortable conversation or situation you may have with the child. The situation only works if there is an open dialogue and everyone is at ease.

The most important thing is not to rush the relationship. As your love for your partner grows, as too will the love you have for their child. Be patient. Be kind. Be approachable.

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4 Reasons Why Women Don’t like Dating Short Men

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This one is for the guys…..

With everything going on in the world today you would think dating would be a piece of cake. Unfortunately there are a few shallow situations that can make your dating life rough. Is height a potential first date deal breaker?? Yes it is, but the first thing you should tell yourself to overcome height expectations is “Don’t take it personal” For all the guys whose height is below 5’7 you’re in luck! I’ve narrowed down the 4 main reasons why women are uncomfortable dating you.

1.) What about my heels?!
Most women love to get dressed up for a night out with their man. In most cases heels make women feel sexy, and happy.If your date is taller than you in her flats, imagine how she feels towering over you in her stilettos! Not cool!

2.) Awkward feelings....
Most women feel weird about having to look down at a love interest. One women even said “When I date a guy shorter than me I don’t know where to look!” I would have to agree, being able to look over my date’s head is not very romantic.

3.)Who will take charge during a confrontation??
Believe it or not some women feel the need to handle everything when with shorter guys. It’s like they don’t feel like the guy would be capable of handling a tough situation. This really plays a role in the way women react to height because all women want to feel protected and secure especially with their dates.

4.) I feel like I’m dating a child
One women said “Whenever I’m with a short guy I just feel like saying, awww look at him he’s so cute” LOL No women wants to see her date in a childlike way. Talk about an immediate date killer!

Here’s what you can do to overcome height stereotypes and restrictions. The first and only thing that you need is CONFIDENCE! you need to be the type of guy who is fearless. Make your date feel like you are strong and in charge. If you come off as weak and timid she’ll kick you to the curb before the date is over! Be Confident!

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Tips on How to Handle Awkward Silence on a First Date

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Imagine this…

It’s Saturday night, Your sitting in a corner booth at your favorite restaurant waiting on a date! But not just any date. It’s with the super sweet guy who begged your BFF to hook you him up with you last week. Now normally you would cringe at just the thought of a blind date, but since he was referred to you by your BFF you reluctantly agree to it….*His hott gym pics didn’t hurt either!*

Finally you spot him! The first thing you notice is that Mr. Hottie looks better than his gym pics! He casually walks over to the booth sits down slowly and says…”HI” you smile back anticipating the start of a conversation. that’s when you notice it! It’s that first date killer! Awkward silence….

Well actually that’s only one of the first date killers. There are plenty of other situations that can lead to awkward silence but the main culprit is lack of chemistry. Does this mean that there is no chemistry with “Mr. Hottie”? of course not! However there are a few steps you can take to stop these awkward silences from ruining your date.

First things first- Call it out! When your in an awkward situation say “Wow this is awkward” Usually your date will agree and the two of you can laugh it off. The longer you wait to break the silence, the longer it will drag on leaving a bad impression in your date’s mind. CALL IT OUT!

Second- Ask a question This is pretty self explanatory. The silence might be caused be anxiety or nerves. If that’s the case you should try to make your date feel more comfortable. Once the nervous energy dissipates, the conversation should return back to normal.

Third- Trip the waiter- Oh wait just kidding (laughs) the waiter falling would be tragic to him, but funny enough to keep the awkward silences away! (do not trip anyone) even though it would definitely break the awkward ice. The equivalent to this would be to tell a joke. Laughter releases nerves and anxiety plus it will give you a chance to admire ‘Mr. Hottie’s ‘ smile.

Let’s keep in mind that all first dates are awkward by default. Creating a comfortable environment is a big deal. So try to talk about common interests.

Remember never dismiss a date’s future potential based solely on silence. He could be the ONE!

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Dating: 4 Quick Tips to prepare for a date

Today’s Hot Topic is Dating:

Every woman has experienced the anticipation, and sometimes anxiety of preparing for a date. So I have enlisted the expertise of the women of the Reigndeer Games! A fun, flirty, sexy group of young women that is known for their insights on dating and relationships.

Views from Vixen-

1. In Fashion, be prepared! There is nothing worse than having an outfit in mind only to find that an hour before your date you’re missing a key component. ex. belt, strapless bra etc. Also, ladies don’t overdo it always leave something to the imagination. Short or tight but not both! Cleavage or booty pick one!

2. Be on time. Not to appear anxious or thirsty but to set the tone for future engagements. He will know you are punctual, and expect the same from him!

3. Smell Good on EVERY level

4. Identify yourself as a talker of listener. If you are more of a talker channel your best listening skills for this occasion. You can’t get to know someone if you are constantly talking about yourself. Keep the conversation flowing throughout the date in a nice exchange of info.

5. Bring your wallet! You don’t want to assume he plans on paying for everything. For many of us (me) this is a deal breaker! If a man invites you out he should pick up the check. But if the bill comes and he starts pulling up his calculator app be prepared to pay your portion. NEVER let him see you sweat…

Prepping from Prancer-

Whether you’ve been dating for a while or this is your first date always have protection! being prepared for anything is something that I pride myself on. In addition to that always have a back up date in case your first option is boring or just a jerk. You may even want to have a spare pair of panties on deck just in case….like I said before always be ready for anything 😉

Dotting all I’s from Dancer-

1. A fresh hairdo is a must! Can’t have that dirty, burned flat iron smell!

2. Prepare to drive! I never want to get picked up on the first date. If the date is wack I may need to get the hell outta dodge.

3. Prepare to pay…gentleman just aren’t gentleman anymore

4. SS&S- Sh#t, Shower, and Shave! In that damn order (Momma De Voice).  This is self explanatory

Cues from Cupid

1. Prepare Good music to listen to.  If you’re riding together you can set the mood and tone for the evening.

2. Have a good snack prior to going out. A lady should never pig out at dinner, by eating prior to the date you can get away with an appetizer or light meal.

3. Care package (Baby wipes, breath strips, deodorant and flats)

4. Bring your own money, secure your Id

Safety Tips: Always be on alert! pepper spray/mace are simple and easy to carry, Plus they wont get taking at the door if you decide to got to a club.  Don’t drink more than your limit, and never let your guard down! Let friends know where you are going.

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