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Dating 101: 3 Reasons Why a Guy Will Not Call You After a First Date

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Am I the only one completely baffled by the lack of communication from guys after the first date!???

They take you out, show you a great time, pay for everything, long kiss you goodnight, then POOF! They pull a Houdini and disappear, never to be heard from again. This may not happen often or it may happen too often. Either way, we have to get to the bottom of this insane trend that is burning through the dating world quicker than a wild fire. The first step to change is admitting that there is a problem……(FELLAS, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM!)

Now that we’ve successfully pinpointed the problem (lol), let’s go through a few reasons why a guy will not call you after a first date…..

You are too clingy: Some people are immediately turned off when someone they just met are too into them. It may be because they don’t understand how or why you like them so much. Men in particular become very skeptical when you start using pronouns like “our” and “we”. Especially in reference to their future with you. The last thing that you want to do is come across as a potential stalker!

If you are truly into your date, and you can see a future with him/her…..keep it to yourself. I know this sounds crazy, but timing is everything in the dating world. You don’t have to reveal your whole soul to someone you’ve just met.

When the topic of future goals come up, keep the focus on him, or on your career. Perhaps you’ll find an interesting topic to converse about.

There are many ways to show interest without being too clingy. Be creative.

You don’t offer to pay: I recently learned that men are completely turned off when women do not at least offer to pay on the date. They realize the subtle social expectation for them to pick up the first date tab, and they rebel against it. They see a women offering to pay as a “nice gesture” so they will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Ladies, if you want a call back, make the offer! (and let me add: this absolutely only applies to any date other than the first! In other words men should always pay on the first date…no exceptions)

Boring conversations: Unfortunately there is no recipe for a perfect conversation. But what’s more unfortunate is the fact that, lack of a good conversation may cause your date to never call you ever again.

One remedy to not be boring is to talk about things you are familiar with. Whenever I’m on a first date, I often find myself “Geeking” out about things that I’m interested in. This shows your date your passions and allows your personality to shine….When in doubt Geek Out!

I know that all of these points could easily apply to men. But I’d like to think that women have a totally different set of reasons for not answering their call after a first date….(to be continued) 🙂

Thoughts?? Tweet me @LiyaBleu

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Dating 101: 5 Tips For Dating A Single Parent

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Single parents…to date or not to date?

So you meet that perfect stranger one night. Smart, funny, gorgeous, quirky, who secretly enjoys watching teen titans (insert cartoon) as much as you do. From the moment you guys hit it off the

conversation is flowing and you find yourself thinking where have you been ALL my life? As you settle into the thought of absolute bliss you eventually learn that your potential life partner already has a special someone in their lives…. a child.

Now if you are a parent this may be an absolute victory for you as your mind replays the Brady Bunch theme. Yet if you are like so many other singles who put career and personal success before starting a family you may find yourself in a scary position. The question hits you like a ton of bricks.. can I date someone with children?

Let me start off by saying children are a joy. For most parents out there the most important thing in their lives are their children. With that being said if you are contemplating dating someone who has children here are a few simple tips on how to make your relationship a success.

1.)Planning your outings and date nights with your partner is not only appreciated it may actually be necessary. While spontaneity is nice, the last thing you want to do is make the other person feel bad when they can’t get a sitter for your random taco Tuesday invite.

2.) Channel your inner 10 year old. Kids come with energy and a carefree spirit. Use that energy and your childhood experiences to relate to the child. Don’t be afraid to color a few pages in their coloring book or play a few rounds of rock paper scissors.

3.) Don’t get in the way when it comes to discipline. While you may have some valid opinions when it comes to how your parents did things, there is no real right or wrong when it comes to parenting. Unless expressly asked for your input, stay out of it.

4.) Plan a monthly kid outing. Nothing shows a single parent that you’re serious about a relationship then making plans with their kid. A simple kid friendly movie, or day at the zoo is just enough to show you are in it for the long haul. You’re relationship with the child is as important as that with the parent.

5.) Communication is key. Never be afraid to voice any uncomfortable conversation or situation you may have with the child. The situation only works if there is an open dialogue and everyone is at ease.

The most important thing is not to rush the relationship. As your love for your partner grows, as too will the love you have for their child. Be patient. Be kind. Be approachable.

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What Women Should Learn From Kenya Moore’s Break Up

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What would you do if you found out that your longtime boyfriend, who you deemed to be the man of your dreams was married!?

Sadly, this happens to many women everyday.Kenya Moore is a recent victim of this disrespectful trend. Yes, news of her current boyfriend James’s “married” facebook status has surfaced. This really sucks for Kenya because she seemed to be genuinely happy in her relationship. She ended all speculations when she posted this statement via Instagram

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Does this mean that he was already engaged during the taping of the show? And of course this brings us right back to the age old question “WHY DO MEN CHEAT!?”….(we’ll talk about that later.)

For now let’s ponder on how Kenya could have missed her boyfriend’s public facebook status! Hmmmmmm……

I am a big fan of checking all social profiles while dating/and in a relationship. My motto is the innocent have nothing to hide lol. With that being said…ladies just remember that there is a thin line between “checking up” on someone and being a stalker.

What do you think??

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