Am I the only one completely baffled by the lack of communication from guys after the first date!???
They take you out, show you a great time, pay for everything, long kiss you goodnight, then POOF! They pull a Houdini and disappear, never to be heard from again. This may not happen often or it may happen too often. Either way, we have to get to the bottom of this insane trend that is burning through the dating world quicker than a wild fire. The first step to change is admitting that there is a problem……(FELLAS, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM!)
Now that we’ve successfully pinpointed the problem (lol), let’s go through a few reasons why a guy will not call you after a first date…..
You are too clingy: Some people are immediately turned off when someone they just met are too into them. It may be because they don’t understand how or why you like them so much. Men in particular become very skeptical when you start using pronouns like “our” and “we”. Especially in reference to their future with you. The last thing that you want to do is come across as a potential stalker!
If you are truly into your date, and you can see a future with him/her…..keep it to yourself. I know this sounds crazy, but timing is everything in the dating world. You don’t have to reveal your whole soul to someone you’ve just met.
When the topic of future goals come up, keep the focus on him, or on your career. Perhaps you’ll find an interesting topic to converse about.
There are many ways to show interest without being too clingy. Be creative.
You don’t offer to pay: I recently learned that men are completely turned off when women do not at least offer to pay on the date. They realize the subtle social expectation for them to pick up the first date tab, and they rebel against it. They see a women offering to pay as a “nice gesture” so they will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
Ladies, if you want a call back, make the offer! (and let me add: this absolutely only applies to any date other than the first! In other words men should always pay on the first date…no exceptions)
Boring conversations: Unfortunately there is no recipe for a perfect conversation. But what’s more unfortunate is the fact that, lack of a good conversation may cause your date to never call you ever again.
One remedy to not be boring is to talk about things you are familiar with. Whenever I’m on a first date, I often find myself “Geeking” out about things that I’m interested in. This shows your date your passions and allows your personality to shine….When in doubt Geek Out!
I know that all of these points could easily apply to men. But I’d like to think that women have a totally different set of reasons for not answering their call after a first date….(to be continued) 🙂
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