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Dating 101: 5 Tips For Dating A Single Parent

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Single parents…to date or not to date?

So you meet that perfect stranger one night. Smart, funny, gorgeous, quirky, who secretly enjoys watching teen titans (insert cartoon) as much as you do. From the moment you guys hit it off the

conversation is flowing and you find yourself thinking where have you been ALL my life? As you settle into the thought of absolute bliss you eventually learn that your potential life partner already has a special someone in their lives…. a child.

Now if you are a parent this may be an absolute victory for you as your mind replays the Brady Bunch theme. Yet if you are like so many other singles who put career and personal success before starting a family you may find yourself in a scary position. The question hits you like a ton of bricks.. can I date someone with children?

Let me start off by saying children are a joy. For most parents out there the most important thing in their lives are their children. With that being said if you are contemplating dating someone who has children here are a few simple tips on how to make your relationship a success.

1.)Planning your outings and date nights with your partner is not only appreciated it may actually be necessary. While spontaneity is nice, the last thing you want to do is make the other person feel bad when they can’t get a sitter for your random taco Tuesday invite.

2.) Channel your inner 10 year old. Kids come with energy and a carefree spirit. Use that energy and your childhood experiences to relate to the child. Don’t be afraid to color a few pages in their coloring book or play a few rounds of rock paper scissors.

3.) Don’t get in the way when it comes to discipline. While you may have some valid opinions when it comes to how your parents did things, there is no real right or wrong when it comes to parenting. Unless expressly asked for your input, stay out of it.

4.) Plan a monthly kid outing. Nothing shows a single parent that you’re serious about a relationship then making plans with their kid. A simple kid friendly movie, or day at the zoo is just enough to show you are in it for the long haul. You’re relationship with the child is as important as that with the parent.

5.) Communication is key. Never be afraid to voice any uncomfortable conversation or situation you may have with the child. The situation only works if there is an open dialogue and everyone is at ease.

The most important thing is not to rush the relationship. As your love for your partner grows, as too will the love you have for their child. Be patient. Be kind. Be approachable.

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What Women Should Learn From Kenya Moore’s Break Up

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What would you do if you found out that your longtime boyfriend, who you deemed to be the man of your dreams was married!?

Sadly, this happens to many women everyday.Kenya Moore is a recent victim of this disrespectful trend. Yes, news of her current boyfriend James’s “married” facebook status has surfaced. This really sucks for Kenya because she seemed to be genuinely happy in her relationship. She ended all speculations when she posted this statement via Instagram

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Does this mean that he was already engaged during the taping of the show? And of course this brings us right back to the age old question “WHY DO MEN CHEAT!?”….(we’ll talk about that later.)

For now let’s ponder on how Kenya could have missed her boyfriend’s public facebook status! Hmmmmmm……

I am a big fan of checking all social profiles while dating/and in a relationship. My motto is the innocent have nothing to hide lol. With that being said…ladies just remember that there is a thin line between “checking up” on someone and being a stalker.

What do you think??

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Karrueche Tran Opens Up To Iyanla Vanzant About Hurt, Betrayal, and Letting Herself Down

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Every woman has a breaking point ya’ll!

Karrueche Tran and Chris Brown are officially over….again….but this time it may be for good. Their Recent split stems from the breaking news of Chris Brown fathering a 9 month old baby girl. Karrueche has stuck with Breezy through many up and downs including love triangles and legal problems. In her exclusive interview on Iyanla Vanzant’s fix my life, Kae revealed that her love for Breezy was not enough to fix all the hurt and bretrayal that her put her through.

Watch a few highlights below!

Thoughts??

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4 Reasons Why Women Don’t like Dating Short Men

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This one is for the guys…..

With everything going on in the world today you would think dating would be a piece of cake. Unfortunately there are a few shallow situations that can make your dating life rough. Is height a potential first date deal breaker?? Yes it is, but the first thing you should tell yourself to overcome height expectations is “Don’t take it personal” For all the guys whose height is below 5’7 you’re in luck! I’ve narrowed down the 4 main reasons why women are uncomfortable dating you.

1.) What about my heels?!
Most women love to get dressed up for a night out with their man. In most cases heels make women feel sexy, and happy.If your date is taller than you in her flats, imagine how she feels towering over you in her stilettos! Not cool!

2.) Awkward feelings....
Most women feel weird about having to look down at a love interest. One women even said “When I date a guy shorter than me I don’t know where to look!” I would have to agree, being able to look over my date’s head is not very romantic.

3.)Who will take charge during a confrontation??
Believe it or not some women feel the need to handle everything when with shorter guys. It’s like they don’t feel like the guy would be capable of handling a tough situation. This really plays a role in the way women react to height because all women want to feel protected and secure especially with their dates.

4.) I feel like I’m dating a child
One women said “Whenever I’m with a short guy I just feel like saying, awww look at him he’s so cute” LOL No women wants to see her date in a childlike way. Talk about an immediate date killer!

Here’s what you can do to overcome height stereotypes and restrictions. The first and only thing that you need is CONFIDENCE! you need to be the type of guy who is fearless. Make your date feel like you are strong and in charge. If you come off as weak and timid she’ll kick you to the curb before the date is over! Be Confident!

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Tips on How to Handle Awkward Silence on a First Date

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Imagine this…

It’s Saturday night, Your sitting in a corner booth at your favorite restaurant waiting on a date! But not just any date. It’s with the super sweet guy who begged your BFF to hook you him up with you last week. Now normally you would cringe at just the thought of a blind date, but since he was referred to you by your BFF you reluctantly agree to it….*His hott gym pics didn’t hurt either!*

Finally you spot him! The first thing you notice is that Mr. Hottie looks better than his gym pics! He casually walks over to the booth sits down slowly and says…”HI” you smile back anticipating the start of a conversation. that’s when you notice it! It’s that first date killer! Awkward silence….

Well actually that’s only one of the first date killers. There are plenty of other situations that can lead to awkward silence but the main culprit is lack of chemistry. Does this mean that there is no chemistry with “Mr. Hottie”? of course not! However there are a few steps you can take to stop these awkward silences from ruining your date.

First things first- Call it out! When your in an awkward situation say “Wow this is awkward” Usually your date will agree and the two of you can laugh it off. The longer you wait to break the silence, the longer it will drag on leaving a bad impression in your date’s mind. CALL IT OUT!

Second- Ask a question This is pretty self explanatory. The silence might be caused be anxiety or nerves. If that’s the case you should try to make your date feel more comfortable. Once the nervous energy dissipates, the conversation should return back to normal.

Third- Trip the waiter- Oh wait just kidding (laughs) the waiter falling would be tragic to him, but funny enough to keep the awkward silences away! (do not trip anyone) even though it would definitely break the awkward ice. The equivalent to this would be to tell a joke. Laughter releases nerves and anxiety plus it will give you a chance to admire ‘Mr. Hottie’s ‘ smile.

Let’s keep in mind that all first dates are awkward by default. Creating a comfortable environment is a big deal. So try to talk about common interests.

Remember never dismiss a date’s future potential based solely on silence. He could be the ONE!

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Beauty: Threading vs. Waxing

Here is a brief (not so brief) synopsis of why I prefer getting my eyebrows threaded over getting them waxed. In my opinion the results of threading lasts longer.
For example when I get my eyebrows threaded it normally takes about 2 to 3 weeks until I start to see regrowth. On the other hand, when I get my brows waxed I start to notice regrowth in about a week and a half. Now I know what some of you are thinking…”Dosen’t threading hurt??” I get asked that a lot, and the answer is YES! it is very painful, but Waxing is just as painful in my book. The difference is the threading results are totally worth it!

Threading give my brows a sharper, more defined shape. In addition threading does not leave an oily residue like waxing does. That same oily residue has caused me to have many breakouts in the past. Annoying forehead breakouts that I have not had since I switched to threading.
The only good thing about waxing is the price. Where I currently live waxing is about $5.00, that is about $5.00 cheaper than the place where I get my brows threaded. However, once you factor in how many more times you will need to get your brows waxed vs. threaded per month it pretty much totals the same price

~PRETTY GIRL TIP: Ladies please do not use razors to shape your brows. Razors make hair grow back thicker, and they often cause hair bumps. Not attractive lol

check out these before and after pics below

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Dating: 4 Quick Tips to prepare for a date

Today’s Hot Topic is Dating:

Every woman has experienced the anticipation, and sometimes anxiety of preparing for a date. So I have enlisted the expertise of the women of the Reigndeer Games! A fun, flirty, sexy group of young women that is known for their insights on dating and relationships.

Views from Vixen-

1. In Fashion, be prepared! There is nothing worse than having an outfit in mind only to find that an hour before your date you’re missing a key component. ex. belt, strapless bra etc. Also, ladies don’t overdo it always leave something to the imagination. Short or tight but not both! Cleavage or booty pick one!

2. Be on time. Not to appear anxious or thirsty but to set the tone for future engagements. He will know you are punctual, and expect the same from him!

3. Smell Good on EVERY level

4. Identify yourself as a talker of listener. If you are more of a talker channel your best listening skills for this occasion. You can’t get to know someone if you are constantly talking about yourself. Keep the conversation flowing throughout the date in a nice exchange of info.

5. Bring your wallet! You don’t want to assume he plans on paying for everything. For many of us (me) this is a deal breaker! If a man invites you out he should pick up the check. But if the bill comes and he starts pulling up his calculator app be prepared to pay your portion. NEVER let him see you sweat…

Prepping from Prancer-

Whether you’ve been dating for a while or this is your first date always have protection! being prepared for anything is something that I pride myself on. In addition to that always have a back up date in case your first option is boring or just a jerk. You may even want to have a spare pair of panties on deck just in case….like I said before always be ready for anything 😉

Dotting all I’s from Dancer-

1. A fresh hairdo is a must! Can’t have that dirty, burned flat iron smell!

2. Prepare to drive! I never want to get picked up on the first date. If the date is wack I may need to get the hell outta dodge.

3. Prepare to pay…gentleman just aren’t gentleman anymore

4. SS&S- Sh#t, Shower, and Shave! In that damn order (Momma De Voice).  This is self explanatory

Cues from Cupid

1. Prepare Good music to listen to.  If you’re riding together you can set the mood and tone for the evening.

2. Have a good snack prior to going out. A lady should never pig out at dinner, by eating prior to the date you can get away with an appetizer or light meal.

3. Care package (Baby wipes, breath strips, deodorant and flats)

4. Bring your own money, secure your Id

Safety Tips: Always be on alert! pepper spray/mace are simple and easy to carry, Plus they wont get taking at the door if you decide to got to a club.  Don’t drink more than your limit, and never let your guard down! Let friends know where you are going.

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Beauty Tip: Heat Protective Spray

Today is Beauty Tip Tuesday!
PrettyEnergy went to instagram to see what hair products the women in H-Town is using to keep their hair on point this summer……I found PRETTY girl Najaah, who was graciously willing to share her thoughts on one of her favorite hair products…

 Silk Elements- Olive Heat Protective Spray

     Ok Ladies we all know that when it comes to natural hair it can be a challenge to wear the silky straight styles as our fellow sisters who are on the creamy crack. But If you are team natural like me and just like to have your hair in a wrap every once in a while read carefully. As most of you know the key to a successful flat iron style is products, and since I style my own tresses most of the time I was on a serious search for the right combination. Although I switch up my shampoos and conditioners depending on what style I am going for one thing that remains a staple in my hair rotation is a heat protector. One faithful trip to Sally’s Beauty proved to be successful when I came across a relatively inexpensive heat protector sitting on the counter. I have been using Silk Elements- Olive oil Heat Protective Spray for the last couple of months and I absolutely adore it! Beyond the wonderful fragrance, it is light enough to not weigh my hair down, yet gives you that great sheen as only olive oil can. This product can be used several times in between shampooing or salon visits without that lingering gunk feeling.I have recommended this product to several ladies who all rave about the look and feel of their hair after using it with their heating tools. From the straightest to the most coarse of hair textures everyone agrees the end result is improved. Run out and grab it, you will not be disappointed.

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Hair Trends: 3 Hair Do’s you should try

    In today’s busy world wouldn’t it be nice if you didn’t have to deal with your hair?? If your anything like me your answer is YES! Sometimes juggling work, kids, and school leaves zero time for hair maintenance. Luckily I found 3 hair styles that are simple and low maintenance.

1.) The Bun- This style is super easy and really cute! just put your hair in a high ponytail, wrap it around a few times, and go. I love this style because it can be worn as sloppy or super neat check out some pic below

Kourtney Kardashian loves buns

 
Ashanti was rocking her bun on the red carpet

2.) Natural Curls- I wear this style ofen! Natural curls are idealfor people that live in places with high humidity. All you need is leave in conditioner, mousse, and gel. So easy! The bigger The Better

Or try Pantene Pro-V 2 in one shampoo, great for all hair types

3.) Braids- I have not had “Poetic Justice” braids since I was in middle school,but these braids have some how made a come back. All you need is a couple packs of hair, and an awesome “braider” I think I’ll credit this comeback to celebrity sisters Solange and Beyonce’

  
Which Style will you be Rocking??

Dating: First Date Tips

This one is for the fellas….

Fellas don’t make dating harder than it has to be. Getting a girl to agree to go out with you is only the first step, but keeping her interested is an entirely different situation. Choosing the right place for the first date will set the tone for the rest of the relationship.

You might not know this, but the first date says a lot about the kind of guy you are!

So here are MY top 4 places that you should never take a first DATE:

1.) A fast food chain

I’m talking about any restaurant with a drive-thru! It is never ok to be that FRUGAL….especially on a first date. Your date will notice, and she will probably never talk to you again.

2.) The Club

This should be very self explanatory. Taking a girl to a club means that you are not really trying to get to know her, because the loud music will make it impossible to converse. Plus you run the risk of seeing another girl that your more attracted too.

3.) To Meet Your Mom

Ok this is just CREEPY! If you do this on a first date you are completely psycho. No woman wants to meet your mom that soon. Your date will notice that you are the type of guy to “rush” things….Chill out.

4.) Back to Your Crib to “Chill”

Like I said before, first dates set the tone for the relationship. Your house does not qualify as a good date location. This is a BOOTY CALL! and no girl wants to be considered a booty call on the first date.

TIPS TO PICKING THE RIGHT PLACE

*Always be original! learn how to read people and think outside the box….

*Ask her what she wants to do, never assume that her saying “we can do anything” is secret girl talk for “I don’t care” (trust me she does!)

* Women like men to take charge, so don’t expect her to suggest places to go on your date. Men Always Plan The Date (PERIOD)

THE MOVIE DEBATE

:In my opinion the movies is a great first date. Simply because it’s classic. Everyone has experienced a movie date at least once in their life.

On the flip side, technically you can not talk during the movie. Which makes some people think twice before picking this as a first date…..However there is time before and after the movie to converse. Plus you can use the movie as a great conversation starter.

**GOOD LUCK**