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Living in The Moment Will Transform Your Workday

What’s the first thought that pops into your head when you wake up? Mine is either “thank you for today” or “why is it still cold outside!?”. (I’m so over winter) Unfortunately many people begin their days with total aggravation for the imagined workday that lies ahead. Did you know that having unpleasant thoughts upon waking can set your whole day into a downward spiral?

Living in the moment is another tool that we can use to stay grounded and focused. Matter of fact one of the first spiritual/health and wellness books that I read touched on the topic of being present. The name of the book is Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer. Before reading the book I would constantly become lost in what seemed like a never ending stream of dialogue in my head. Dialogue about everything! And if it wasn’t dialogue it was a song that I hated! Why do the bad songs stick in our heads so long!? It wasn’t until after I read the book that I realized I had been existing far outside of the present moment, probably my whole life. More importantly it caused me to take action.

One day while sitting in my cubicle (bored) I declared to always make a conscious effort to live in the present moment. At the time I wasn’t even 100% sure what the meant but I knew it had to be done. I grabbed a sticky note from my desk and frantically begin writing down all the thoughts in my mind. I just felt like writing them down would help free my mind. My results were minimal, however it did help me to see how nonsensical my thoughts were at times. The whole exercise made me laugh. I was slowly becoming the observer…

We walk around all day on auto pilot. This is because our conscious minds are so busy analyzing our thoughts. Mean  while our subconscious minds are in control doing the same things over and over. Why do you think your so bored with work after a few years. We shouldn’t live our lives like this!

Living in the moment will transform your work day no matter how boring and tedious in is. Here are a few tips below

Start the day in gratitude: Begin each day listing the things that you are grateful for. I keep a gratitude notebook on my nightstand that I write in daily. This may take a while to get the hang of, but it’ll be like second nature after you’ve done it for a while. Starting each day like this will make you feel happy and energized!

Stop the voice in your head: Contrary to popular belief, a busy mind is not a good thing. Learning how to quiet the mind and be present is a skill. The first step is to notice your thoughts. You are not the voice in your head, learn how to tell the difference. The next step is to watch your thoughts as they come and go without giving attention to them. This process is easier than it sounds, and it is explained in detail in the book mentioned above.

Taking the time to focus on your work will give you less time to focus on the things that you don’t like about your work. Therefore making your entire work experience more pleasant.

Don’t worry be happy: Remember that you have the power to change what you do anytime you want. So stop worrying, try focusing on being happy at work instead. You’ll move on when you’re ready.

What do you think?

 

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How Your Blame and Lack of Responsibility are Linked to Habits of Indecisiveness

My dad once told me a story about my mom. In the story he recalled a mid-day drive thru experience at Mcdonalds. He described pulling into the drive thru, giving his order, and being overcome with frustration shortly after. By now you must be thinking what in the world does that story have to do with indecisiveness!?

Well the trigger for his frustration was my mom’s lack of promptness while ordering. That’s right folks, she had no clue what she wanted eventhough she picked the place. He laughed as he remembered her looking at every menu item in contemplation.

Haven’t we all experienced a situation like this?

You’re either the person waiting in line frustrated at Starbucks because the person in front of you has no idea what they want. Or you’re the person at the register who is holding up the line because you can not decide which latte represents your mood for the day. This may be a smaller example of an indesicive moment, but it shows how common this annoying habit can be.

Responsibility

Are you more comfortable with passing major decisions off to someone else than you are making them yourself? There is a certain amount of responsibility that comes with make a decision. The level of responsibility will depend on the situation. Many people do not want to assume responsibility for their decisions because they are unsure of the outcome.

I know this feeling firsthand! I was once that person holding up the drive thru line, not because I didn’t know what I wanted, but because I was afraid to try something new. If something tasted bad I would have to live with the result of my bad decision. This kept me in a imaginary comfort zone for a long time. It took me a while to see that being indecisive was worse than comitting to a decision and just accepting the outcome. When we are decisive we are taking control of our lives!

Blame

Do you need someone to blame? Indecisiveness allows us to blame others. Just think about it for a minute….If you go into a restaurant and let the waiter decide your meal for the evening, you’ll surely give him all the blame if that meal is not to your liking. The same can be said for all decision that we make.

Solution

I once read somewhere that whatever we do for 30 days becomes a habit. The same practices are true for breaking habits. Therefore you can beat your habits of indecisiveness!

Affirmation

I could go on and on about why affirmations are so awesome. These have helped me transform my life in tremendous ways. So I’ll share an affirmation that I use daily to help with my annoying indecisive behavior.

*I choose to leave nothing about me to chance. when it comes to me, and anything in my life- I choose to choose!* Now repeat three times a day, morning, noon, and night.

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Pretty Review: Make Going Natural Easy With Primal Pit Paste

Primal pit paste is a natural deoderant that neutralizes body odor while leaving pores unclogged and refreshed.

I discovered this brand during a late night google search for ALUMINUM FREE deoderants and boy am I glad.

Living an active lifestyle requires me to be able to multitask effortlessly, exercise regularly, and keep anxiety in check all with out breaking a sweat! But the truth is we all break a sweat once in a while. Whether your a man or woman, you will face situations that will cause you to be nervous, anxious, or scared at some point in time. If you’re anything like me, your deoderant decision is a big deal. Deoderant should go on smooth, smell amazing, prevent sweating, and leave absolutely no residue ever!

My decision to eliminate aluminum, parabens, and other chemicals was caused by my recent lifestyle change. Lucky for me Primal Pit Paste has made my choice an unregretable one.

I’ve listed a few specific reason why I love this natural deodorant below…

Primal Pit Paste is 100% vegan: I love when I know exactly what is in my products! The baking soda stops bacteria causing odor. While the arrowroot helps to absorb wetness leaving you feeling dry all day!

Texture: Very rich and smooth. The product rubs in easily and does not leave a residue.

Pricing: I ordered the 2oz mini jar from amazon for $8.95. The picture of the actual jar didn’t seem that big at all, but once I received my package I saw that i’s a good size. as a newby in the world of naturals I wasn’t sure what to expect.

Long Lasting: They advise using a pea sized amount for each pit. So far I’ve had it for a month and barely scratched the surface. Plus it stays on all day

Smell: There are a variety of natural scents to choose from. Coconut lime was the scent of my choice. I already use coconut on my skin and nails so this option was a no brainer for me. I also love that they offer different strengths for those people who need a little more funk fighting power.

Primal Pit Paste Jar Ingredients:

Organic Coconut Oil

, Organic Shea Butter, Organic Arrowroot Powder, Aluminum Free Baking Soda, and Essential Oils

If you want a creamy, long lasting, vegan, deodorant than this is definitely the right choice!

How Lack of Focus Affects Your Mind, Your Body, and Your Spirit

Do you feel like you are constantly on your grind, but you never get results? Or do you jump from one career to the next with no clear direction? If you answered yes to either of those questions you may be one of millions who suffer from lack of focus. Focus is an important tool that can help you attain the life the life that you want.

My journey of self discovery, meditation, and yoga has helped me pin point the areas of my life that lacked focus. I am just beginning to realize that I can slowly change life’s outcomes just by focusing on the things that matter most. For instance, I recently noticed that I have a habit of catching up on my favorite tv shows right after work. At the same time I was feeling like I didn’t have enough hours in the day to do important things like cooking and exercise. Once I began to focus on my daily habits I saw just what needed to be cut out in order to be happier. I still catch up on my favorite shows but now I’m able block out a time that works best. Now I feel like I have enough time for everything.

I’ve listed the ways The lack of focus can affect your mind, body, and spirit below…

1.) The Mind

Energy flows where attention goes- Our thoughts are magical. They braodcast our wants, dreams, and desires to our cells. Therefore when you allow yourself to be swept away in thought. Your attention goes to whatever thought you’re having at that moment. This sends a signal to your cells that says that is what you want. Then the universe begins working to bring you that thing. The funny thing is that your cells do not care whether the thought is good or bad.

Lack of focus allows distractions to pull your attention away from your dreams and goals!

2.) The Body

Ask yourself—> Who’s side are you on? Have you ever heard the saying “your body is a temple”? Well it’s true! Lack of focus can be hindering you from creating your ideal body. Do you ever plan to pack a healthy lunch for the following day. Then get so caught up with random things that you forget. Although your intentions were good, I’m sure your body could have benefited more from a homemade salad than the quick burger and fries at the drive thru! Love your body enough to focus on what’s going into it.

Lack of focus can cause you to make poor decisions!

3.) The spirit

ask yourself—> Who am I? Let’s face it, trying to find yourself in today’s fast paced world can be difficult. Especially with pressures that come along with body image, money, and other people’s expectations of you. Not taking the time to focus on your passions, or your purpose can lead to a lifetime journey of unfulfillment, worry, and self doubt.

Adding more focus to your life should be a mindful practice that we do more of each day.

What do you think??

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Transform Your Space, Your Time, and Your Mind Using These Easy Decluttering Tips

Did you know that your space is an outward expression of your mind? Many people live their daily lives totally unaware of this fact. Yet cluttered spaces are often times the reason we experience energy blocks, fatigue, and anxiety. This is why decluttering is so important!

Space has always been a focus of the declutter process and for obvious reasons. But there are other aspects of our lives that are at risk for clutter! Like our time, and our minds. That’s right clutter is a silent happy life hacker.

Decluttering Time: Are there things that you want to do, but you feel there is never enough time? Or do you over commit yourself to multiple tasks, then end up not completing them or canceling?

This was the story of my life for the longest. I never wanted to say no to offers for fear of losing opportunities and potential relationships. It took me a while to realize that not showing up, or canceling last minute was actually causing more damage than declining the offer all together.

We shouldn’t live our lives in cluttered time.

Decluttering your time is all about making time for the things that matter most when you over commit yourself you are adding too many unimportant task into your 24 hour day.

Here are a few life tools to help you unclutter your time:

Step 1.) Carry a planner- Planners are awesome for prioritizing your busy schedule. Plus there are many different types to choose from!

Step 2.) Never bite off more than you can chew- Try not to over schedule your time. Sure your intentions are good but relationships will suffer if you become habitually unreliable.

Decluttering Mind: are you constantly worrying about things you have no control over? Or obsessing about past events? Or do you have problems focusing on the present moment because you’re always in your head?

Don’t worry, we’ve all been there *le sigh* Check out this quick meditation (shavasana) to help calm your mind and release that pesky cluttering energy!

Decuttering Your Space: Have you ever walked into a place for the first time and immediately felt overwhelmed or anxious? Or maybe you’ve come home and noticed an overflow of stuff that you had no place for?

Clearing our space is necessary for accessing free flowing creativity.

Here are a few life tools for clearing your space that will limit energy blocks and fatigue

Step 1.) Get rid of unused items- we all have clothes that we will never wear again, books we can donate, or shoes that we just don’t need. Life is all about flow. Emptying old unused things will create space for new things!

Step 2.) Get organized-Get in the habit of putting everything in a specific place. This is what organizing is all about.

All things in nature have order, we are no different. Creating a neat orderly space will optimize your mind by helping you notice other areas in your life that also need order.

What do you think? Share Knowledge by commenting below!

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A Meditation for Clarity and Focus

For me the new year is a joyous occasion. It’s a time of fresh starts and reflections. When I celebrate I toast to both past and future accomplishments. But for many the new year can be nerve wrecking. Maybe you are one of many people who feel that you did not reach all of your goals. Or during reflection you notice that you are not living in your purpose….

Don’t be so hard on yourself! the first step to living a purposeful life is gaining clarity. How can the universe help you reach your dreams, if you’re not even clear on what your dreams are?!?

Getting clear on what you want requires focus. Meditation is a great tool that will help you calm your mind in order to gain more clarity.

Watch my Guided meditation below!

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A Meditation Focused on Goal Achievement

Let’s talk about goals and how you can use meditation to help achieve them.

There are so many people out there who wish they could change some important aspect of their life, like health and fitness, finances, careers, or relationships. I’m here to tell you that you can get absolutely anything you want! Using meditation allows you to quiet all the chatter in  your mind so that you can focus all of your attention on one thing at a time. Don’t head to your mat just yet! first lets set the ground work so that your meditation can be effective.

It all begins with a vision….your vision or you dream is the thing that you want to achieve. It is the same as the end result. For example let’s say you want to lose 10 lbs. Your vision would be you 10lbs lighter. Your Goals on the other hand, are all of the steps you plan to take in order to reach the end result which is to lose 10 pounds.

Once you have your vision you must set your intentions, take action, then follow through.

1.) You have to decide what you want (be specific)

2.) Make a list of all the tasks that must be done to reach your desired vision

3.) Pick one task to focus on during your meditation

Once you’ve completed those 3 steps you’ll be ready to begin!

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PrettyEnergy: LiyaBleu-One Strange Encounter

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As you may know, over the past year or so, I have been immersed into the cool and sometime scary world of online dating.

Trust me, I will gladly answer all the W’s that just popped into your head (Who, What, Where, When, and Why) but first let me tell you about my most recent encounter….

It all started with a simple tinder swipe to the right. Yes, I was scrolling through the tinder data base when I came across a guy. I’m not going to lie and say that this guy’s pic was so captivating that it was love at first sight, but who am I to judge a book by it’s cover?? Right?? Anyway we slowly began conversing via tinder message, then later exchanged numbers in order to keep the convo going through text.

First let me say that this guy’s optimism was questionable….He had a way of texting that mimicked that of a bad sports commentator. lol Like he sent me every single thought that popped into his head with in the span of a minute. So I would get about 10 replies for every one text that I sent him….(simmer on that) and they were always extremely happy like “Goodmorning” “Oh how sweet the air is smelling” “Rise and listen to the beautiful birds chirp” “I love thee Life” (you get the picture)

My thoughts were “maybe he just likes communicating in that way, and besides he seemed to be really smart so…..” Yep, that’s me always looking on the brighter side of things. But in reality this was his true identity (no Peter Parker here folks)

Let’s fast forward to Friday……

We eventually decided to meet in person. I suggested that he pick the place. I always do this for first dates especially so that
1.)I can see his alpha male side and
2.)I can see if he actually paid attention when I gave him the long list of things that I like to do

He decides that he would like to watch me eat so he made reservations at a very nice restaurant. He sent me the link, and all was well.
Now you’re probably thinking what is so strange about that???? Let’s keep going

Here we were the day of the date and I began getting texts that were basically just going over the particulars. For instance The address, the time, and the price of dinner. As I said before he was a happy texter. At that point I was thinking…..hmmmm, I may have been out of the dating game for a while, but why is he sending me dinner prices??? The only word flashing before my mind’s eye was DUTCH DUTCH DUTCH! Now let’s be clear, there is absolutely nothing wrong with going dutch. Just as long as it’s not on the first date!

But I still wasn’t sure exactly what his intentions were so I decided to ask him point blankly “Is this a dutch situation?”….His reply was yes! And oh how it all went down hill from there! Not in a bad way, but let’s just say he’s probably still sitting at the restaurant awaiting my arrival as we speak! (excuse my bad jokes but I’m laughing while I type!) And it get’s better….Once I learned of my Happy texting friend’s intentions I decided to let him down easy, no beating around the bush, and no ambiguity. I basically stated that I do not pay for myself on first dates….Simple and easy right??

Well, to happy texter that meant “fix the problem.” Which included opting to pay for both checks (checks that he said the restaurant always separates) And wrongly accusing the English language for the reason that the whole misunderstanding occurred. Strange right!?

I’ll leave you to ponder what happened after that. But I’m curious to know what would you have done if you were in my shoes?? Would you have been okay with the “Dutch Situation”? Or would you have pulled the plug on the whole thing?

Keep the Convo going! tweet me @LiyaBleu

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Dating 101: 3 Reasons Why a Guy Will Not Call You After a First Date

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Am I the only one completely baffled by the lack of communication from guys after the first date!???

They take you out, show you a great time, pay for everything, long kiss you goodnight, then POOF! They pull a Houdini and disappear, never to be heard from again. This may not happen often or it may happen too often. Either way, we have to get to the bottom of this insane trend that is burning through the dating world quicker than a wild fire. The first step to change is admitting that there is a problem……(FELLAS, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM!)

Now that we’ve successfully pinpointed the problem (lol), let’s go through a few reasons why a guy will not call you after a first date…..

You are too clingy: Some people are immediately turned off when someone they just met are too into them. It may be because they don’t understand how or why you like them so much. Men in particular become very skeptical when you start using pronouns like “our” and “we”. Especially in reference to their future with you. The last thing that you want to do is come across as a potential stalker!

If you are truly into your date, and you can see a future with him/her…..keep it to yourself. I know this sounds crazy, but timing is everything in the dating world. You don’t have to reveal your whole soul to someone you’ve just met.

When the topic of future goals come up, keep the focus on him, or on your career. Perhaps you’ll find an interesting topic to converse about.

There are many ways to show interest without being too clingy. Be creative.

You don’t offer to pay: I recently learned that men are completely turned off when women do not at least offer to pay on the date. They realize the subtle social expectation for them to pick up the first date tab, and they rebel against it. They see a women offering to pay as a “nice gesture” so they will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Ladies, if you want a call back, make the offer! (and let me add: this absolutely only applies to any date other than the first! In other words men should always pay on the first date…no exceptions)

Boring conversations: Unfortunately there is no recipe for a perfect conversation. But what’s more unfortunate is the fact that, lack of a good conversation may cause your date to never call you ever again.

One remedy to not be boring is to talk about things you are familiar with. Whenever I’m on a first date, I often find myself “Geeking” out about things that I’m interested in. This shows your date your passions and allows your personality to shine….When in doubt Geek Out!

I know that all of these points could easily apply to men. But I’d like to think that women have a totally different set of reasons for not answering their call after a first date….(to be continued) 🙂

Thoughts?? Tweet me @LiyaBleu

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Why Women Love Alpha Males

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I was hanging out at a random party a few weeks ago when the topic of an “Alpha Man” came up….Now of course it was a mixed crowd, and I would have had a guy elaborate on the subject. However drinks were on deck and before I knew it there was an all out battle about a globe…..or something to that effect. lol

Any who, the conversation started when the complex topic of relationships came up. Women basically want a strong male counterpart who completes them. (it’s just that simple) With that being said, I think it’s safe to say that all women have their own idea of what constitutes a strong male. No matter your race, or species, all Alpha males exhibit the same traits. Here are just a few reasons why we love them….

Alpha males exemplify success: When a woman chooses this “alpha” she is choosing a man who can possibly provide financial security. This is particularly appealing in today’s society. This does not mean that she is a “gold digger”, it means that she realizes and identifies with success in her own right. Therefore she’ll have no problem being a strong supporter of her alpha because she will trust in his ability to “bring home the bacon”. Even the most independent woman of today can appreciate this alpha.

Alpha males are confident: A woman will choose this “alpha” because she is attracted to his subtle ability to affect people in different situations. This “alpha” displays an inner “knowing” of himself that is both sexy and alluring. Most woman will choose this “alpha” but this alpha will only choose the woman who is confident within her self.

Alpha males are decisive: Life is all about decisions right? So in this case opposites might attract. An indecisive woman will gravitate towards this alpha because she lacks the ability or motivation to make certain decisions on her own. Or perhaps she prefers not to take on sole responsibility for certain situations. In any case, the polarity of this alpha-beta relationship works perfectly. He gets to take charge, and she’s happy to let him.

Trust me, women can spot the alpha of the pack from a mile away! As a matter of fact, YOU know the alpha as well. He’s the friend who makes all the decisions and is never outwardly worried about anything.

Thoughts??

Keep the convo going!! @Liyableu

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